Waiting Until Marriage is a Really Big Topic of Discussion nowadays…
From Megan Goods and Devon Franklin waiting until marriage to have sex, to Ciara and Russel Wilson’s newly announcing their decision to abstain from sex and to Tim and Briana Bowman going as far as presenting a certificate of virginity to her father, on their wedding a day.
Wait a minute….did you actually click on the links and view the video’s???
I’ll wait…. lol.
Really Good Video’s, I know… So back to theses questions after viewing all of the videos…
- Should Christians start making these announcements a little more frequently?
- Is this even possible to achieve without rushing into marriage just to have sex?
- Is abstaining from sex even possible after a divorce?
So many questions but at the end of the day, these few people taking the brave steps to announce to the world and then being held accountable by millions of people to their decisions, proves to us that making the decision to wait is very real, very possible, and very hard!!!
Speaking from experience of abstaining now 7 years. It’s literally a non-negotiable commitment you make to yourself and say I will keep because I’m worth it.
Now you may ask, did they abstain from everything? Can one abstain from everything, the answer is still yes! You just have to date and be in a committed relationship with someone that value your decision or is has the same mindset and making the same decision to abstain, having accountability partners and making sure to place barriers and limitations to not fall into sexual temptations. Such as, not being in a bedroom together after hours or at all…. LOL. I’m pretty sure you can think of more after that example. It is very important that there is a very real conversation between both parties to discuss boundaries and limitations. Some people go as far as not kissing because they can’t handle that much but for others holding hands, kissing and such is fine.
If you’re tingling than you shouldn’t be mingling- Marie
SOOOOOOO, Let’s put some scripture to it.
Hebrews 13: 4 Marriage is to be held in honor among all [that is, regarded as something of great value], and the marriage bed undefiled [by immorality or by any sexual sin]; for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous (AMP)
1 Thessalonians 4-7: 3 For this is the will of God, that you be sanctified [separated and set apart from sin]: that you abstain and back away from sexual immorality; 4 that each of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor [being available for God’s purpose and separated from things profane], 5 not [to be used] in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God and are ignorant of His will; 6 and that [in this matter of sexual misconduct] no man shall transgress and defraud his brother because the Lord is the avenger in all these things, just as we have told you before and solemnly warned you. 7 For God has not called us to impurity, but to holiness [to be dedicated, and set apart by behavior that pleases Him, whether in public or in private]. 8 So whoever rejects and disregards this is not [merely] rejecting man but the God who gives His Holy Spirit to you [to dwell in you and empower you to overcome temptation]. (AMP)
1 Corinthians 6:18-20: Run away from sexual immorality [in any form, whether thought or behavior, whether visual or written]. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the one who is sexually immoral sins against his own body. 19 Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is within you, whom you have [received as a gift] from God, and that you are not your own [property]? 20 You were bought with a price [you were actually purchased with the precious blood of Jesus and made His own]. So then, honor and glorify God with your body. (AMP)
That was good right, but now let’s identify things that we allow to infiltrate our minds as well
ARE WE GETTING FED or ALLOWING DIFFERENT IDEOLOGIES TO TAKE PRECEDENCE?????
Take a listen to this session of Professor Eric Anderson author of Men are Designed to Cheat. on the new show IT’s Not You It’s Men hosted by Tyrese and Rev Run.
Soooooo, this Valentine’s Day season think about making a commitment to realigning your commitment to God and not to your tingling feelings, your insecurities, your commitment to keeping this man in fear you’ll lose him or the fear of starting over. Simply just giving a man privileges he hasn’t earned, your most prized possession should not be lessened to someones greed, lust or a good time. Get rid of those soul ties love…and wait! You’re worth the wait.
Someday, somewhere you’ll meet someone who thinks you’re the most gorgeous most prettiest thing that’s walked this planet — yup, wait for that love! But in the meantime keep that crown on Queen! Again, You’re worth the wait.
P.S. Tangible Tools, Resources and Accountable Groups to help you along the way.
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