#WETHESONS Blog Post #6

In Gods Timing
“In the end, you can’t really force someone to do anything, even if it’s for their good.
You can’t force someone to respect your feelings or care about your passions or believe your dreams.
You can’t force someone to believe your side of the story, even when you’re right.
You can’t force an apology.
You can’t force someone to engage in social justice or fight for the poor or to become nuanced in culture and history.
You can’t force growth.
You can’t force someone to show up on time, or even show up at all.
In the end, I’ve learned that people will do whatever they want, even if that means stepping on you or neglecting you or abandoning you or belittling you or choosing others over you. I’ve probably done this as much as it’s been done to me. It’s a terrible cycle that leaves us bitter, suspicious, paranoid, and completely jaded.
I’ve also learned that I don’t care if you don’t care. I have to love anyway. I have to be patient anyway. I have to be jaded to being jaded. Because I don’t want to perpetuate someone else’s cycle of apathy and neglect. I don’t want to be one more rung in the ladder of indifference. I don’t want to be a reactionary pawn.
No, I cannot force anything on you, and I won’t. I can only pour out what I have. Even if you don’t care. Especially if you don’t care. I’ll pour out anyway.”
-JS Park
This really resonated with me for the simple fact that I have been battling the spirit of apathy and indifference towards my father in his inability to reconcile his relationships with my siblings. I’ve had countless arguments trying to repair the inner workings of my family and it isn’t until now that I’ve realized that I am not God and I don’t command the growth of others or the actions of others no matter how intellectual or anointed I think I am. I realized how hypocritical the notion of “why can’t you reconcile faster” is when God could be asking me the same thing. Patience and love have to be my weapons in this battle.

– Gary White

Beck’s Blahg #2

Beck’s Blahg

25 “Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? 26 Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? 27 And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?

Matthew 6:25-27

            Do you ever feel the pressure to have all the answers? To put those you love at ease by having detailed plan of your life and how you see things going? To comfort those depending on you, by never wearing the cloak of worry in front of them? If so… congratulations, you’re human!

            Whether you are a babe in Christ or a titled believer, flesh will always struggle with what Proverbs 19:21 calls the “many plans in the mind of a man”. Serving such a BIG God, it’s so easy to forget that he cares even about the little things we go through daily. So we plan. And we make moves; moves so swift and impulsive that we ignore God by not even turning to him first. School choices, career paths, relocating, the company we keep, budgeting, nutritional choices, family planning, these are just some of the many choices we leave God out of. Not because we think we can do it better job than him or we want all the glory for our successes, but because compared to all the decisions we make on a daily basis, some seem more tedious than others. Some may think that the tediousness of praying about choices we think may not have lasting effects on our lives, like friends and how we spend money, can add bump in a plan we once thought would be smooth. Not so. The word of God says in Jeremiah 29:11-13

“11 for I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. 12 Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you. 13 You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart…”

Anxiety, my friends, is not of God. Unlike fear, which responds to a real or perceived immediate threat, anxiety is the expectation of a future threat. Expecting something to go wrong, so we hurry and fill in any void, cover any hole, bridge any gap that we foresee being a problem. But what happened to expecting the most from God? Expecting him to guide you and direct your path? Let’s get it in our heads that our lives have already been aligned by our father.

Somewhere along the way, acquiring my roles as a wife and as a mother…while sustaining my roles as a daughter, sister, niece and friend… I have mastered the art of pretending like I have everything figured out. Or at least I thought I did. I’m fooling no one. Neither are those who are in my same situation. Worrying about tomorrow is not how God wants us to live. Mathew 6:31-34

Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. 33 But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.34 Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble”.


-Rebecca Johnson


To All Sons:

What’s going on my brothers in Christ!? I hope all is well with everyone.

About a month ago, I caught myself out of the spirit for a little while. After deciding I wanted a career change from my current profession of teaching to something in higher education, I applied to a few positions.  Interview after interview I really thought something would land for me.  I made it to the final interview of two jobs but all in all, they ended up hiring someone internally.  Lets just say, for a lack of better words, I was really really really upset.

I became lazy.  I stopped applying to postings I saw online. I literally gave up on trying to move forward for a career change.  I kept thinking “if it was meant to be, a job will come to me somehow. Don’t need to keep trying as hard.”  It was my way of talking myself into a sense of entitlement.

But then I came across a verse in Proverbs 13:4,  “The soul of the sluggard craves and gets nothing, while the soul of the diligent is richly supplied.”

God has rewards, victory and promotions for you, but these things do not happen automatically.  You have to do your part.  You have to be DILIGENT. You have to be diligent to seek his ways and follow his commands.  You also have to use your time, resources and abilities as well as you can.

In Matthew, Jesus tells a story about three men whose boss assigned them with some money. Two of the men were diligent and invested that money and received a great return.  The last of the three men was afraid of doing the same and hid his money he was given.  The first two men were rewarded and praised for their diligence while the third man was basically fired.

So I realized, we all need to follow the example of the first two men and look for ways to be diligent even though things might not always be immediately fruitful. Whatever you do, keep doing it with excellence.  Go the extra mile even if you feel that you are going unnoticed.  God notices and promises to richly supply the soul of the diligent!

God Bless you guys!


Ali Muhammad

Calling All Sons Co-Facilitator


Quick, le’me take a Self-E

By: Rebecca Johnson (Calling All Daughters Member)

“Selfie”, a term coined by pop-culture, voted as Oxford dictionaries Word of the Year, and the all occasion must-do. Dating back to the late 1830s, the first portrait of a person, self-portraiture is no new concept. However the phenomenon of capturing and sharing a flattering image of oneself has spread like wild-fire! I digress… SELFIE BREAK!

Controlling your image on surface is liberating, fun, and explorative. Think about it, how many school pictures hanging in your parents and grandparents’ foyers and staircase walls, make you cringe upon sight? I have to admit, I have many. Turning that camera around provides us with so many options. We can be dark, we can be light, provocative, innocent, inviting, charismatic, silly, deep, and passionate. Ultimately, enhancing who we really are or who we wished to be. “Selfies”, our gadgets facilitate them, our culture admires them, and our confidence…well lets just say we feed off of them.

Take a journey with me for a quick read and pick up our conscience Self-E sticks. Lets’ Self Examine. I want to offer you an alternative to the selfie. Keeping the same concept of turning the camera on ourselves by ourselves, let us look past the images we are creating and check-in. Yes, #nofilter. Honesty. I digress, SELF-E BREAK! (points camera at me).

I take about four selfies a day, three I won’t post either because they’re not my standard of cute, my hair isn’t cooperating, or I only took it to see how I looked at that particular time. So focused on the image I’m presenting to cyber-world, I am totally disregarding how I am translating and interacting face to face. Maybe its the pregnancy, but I can be quite distant to strangers. In reality there is no radial or linear vignette options. I cant tell people to focus in on my heart and my intentions while clouding out my face, body language, and expressions. The energy I put into my selfie, should be a third of what I am putting into my-Self.

Be present and be conscious about what image you’re displaying for the world. Not cyber world, your world. Your neighbors, co-workers, and strangers, they deserve your best you. Christ lives in us, and his image is really the only one we should be concerned about. Putting your best foot forward and being the best you people can see, should be our goal. Please don’t get this confused with living for the sake of the public-no instafame celebs here. I am talking about genuine and purposeful smiles that exemplify the best of who you are. Your higher self, the God in you.

Technology has placed a great power in our hands. The toured “selfie” is only the beginning. Lets’ keep the Self-E trend trending and be reminded to stop and check-in every once in a while. Take you Self-E and take note of what you see. What do you like? What don’t you like? why?… Is there something you can change or switch up? How about this, for every two “selfies” we take, let take a min for one self-e. Fair, right?